Women can ejaculate just like men. Learn to let go!

Female Ejaculation can be a very wonderful thing when your ready to enjoy it. We all know how much men enjoy ejaculation, so why can’t women enjoy it as well? One approach would be to watch a man ejaculate and pay attention to everything that stimulates him, as well as discussing it with him. Putting this all together with what stimulates you, and what you like can help give you a little direction. That and as a woman it’s always fun to see your man so excited, isn’t it?

Female Ejaculation, is also called gushing or squirting. You may have some questions about this like:

• Can I learn this or is it something only porn stars do?
• I am afraid I will pee on my partner, what do I do?
• How will my partner react to it?
• How does it taste?
• How come it takes so long?
• What’s the best way for me to achieve FE (Female Ejaculation) ?

For this to work you need to relax and really let your body experience everything that cums. Think about it. When a man cums, don’t you think it feels somewhat similar to peeing since it is released the same way?

Many women are scared to try this, ignorant of the possibility or too nervous about exploring their sexuality. But this is changing. The G spot has been often called the female prostate due to it’s location and being developed from similar material during your time in the womb.

So, you must be asking, ok… how can I ejaculate? The answer is as simple as it is not. Doing kegels is always a good thing as it increases your sexual enjoyment whether you’re a man or woman. But the area you want to focus on is your G-spot. Now you don’t necessarily need for focus on it alone, the more stimulation the better right?

But you must learn to relax and really let your body experience this. When men ejaculate there is a switch that naturally holds back any urine and allows only ejaculate to pass. While research is still being done on female ejaculation, it is possible the same may hold true for women. If you’re alone, a great place to start may be in the tub, in case you’re worried about the mess. If you have a partner? Just be honest. Many men find it very erotic when their female partner ejaculates as they can relate to it and feel proud that they gave you so much pleasure. So relax, you’re likely more nervous than he is!

If you’re alone you want to either find a comfortable position where you can reach your G-spot or invest in a G-spot toy. Don’t worry if it doesn’t work at first, keep at it. If sex was that easy, no one would ever complain about a less than spectacular sex life. If you are trying with a partner than focus on positions that allow him to hit your G-spot.

This is as much mental as it is physical. You must give yourself to the experience. Many women say the act of sex makes them feel like they have to pee. This is natural as you’re stimulating an area that you use to pee. Many men feel the same thing. So it may take some time and practice to completely allow yourself to relax and release and feel everything.

Many women are so worried about how they look in bed, as well as releasing a queef (vaginal fart), or not pleasing their man. So it’s no wonder that it may be difficult.

So remember, get yourself aroused, and excited, and really get into it…. and LET YOURSELF GO!

And in case you’re wondering will men not like the taste and not want to perform oral on you? Relax! Female ejaculate is actually fairly sweet tasting as it contains 2 types of sugars found in the body.

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If you’re wondering what both men and women think about female ejaculation, look no further.

Julie

I can not believe that people think women can’t ejaculate, or that the subject was so controversial. About 4 years ago I started reading up on it with my ex, and now I can’t not do it. Since he was so supportive and happy about it I never had any problems. I get mixed reactions from men now. Some think it’s just urine, but it’s not. I can gush so much that is soaks the mattress. I only stop when I’m exhausted. I felt like I could really let go if my partner would pull out and continue stimulating the outside of my vagina and my clit. It feels like a huge build up, and it’s great to finally release.

Debbie

The first time this happened to me was when I was 22. I was just soo embarrassed because I thought I peed on the guy. But oddly enough it didn’t feel like pee. It didn’t happen until 3 years later with my current husband. When it happened he was just overjoyed. He explained what had just happened and we were both ecstatic. I had no idea women could ejaculate. What works for me is the fact that he’s hitting my G-spot, but also hitting me deep in my vagina. Luckily for me, my husband is well endowed. It’s just an incredible rush, so much so that it excites him to orgasm as well!

Jake

I was with a woman once who soaked the bed when she came. I thought, wow, look at her pee. When it happened again with another girl I thought, is it really a bladder problem? She explained to me that she frequently squirted, and that females can ejaculate just like men. Wow. I had no idea. I really am changing my understanding of this now, and feel very lucky.

Danny

Having been with my girlfriend for over a year now I noticed she always tensed up when she had an orgasm. I told her she was essentially taking all the fun out of it. If you want to really enjoy it, you have to let go, and enjoy the ride. After a few weeks of discussing it and finally getting her to relax more, and to her surprise she ejaculated. And not a little, a LOT. She’s never enjoyed sex as much as she does now… and she thinks I am just amazing!

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Q: Is My Penis Too Small/Big? What Is The Average Size?

Relax! Most adult males fall into the average group which is believed to be between 4 and 6 inches erect. But have you really looked at your penis? Did you know it gains that extra size at the moment you orgasm? So, sure some women may focus on the size of a man’s penis the same way men may focus on the size of a woman’s breasts. But many mature adults realize that so long as their partner is about average (more or less), it’s the person they’re interested in, moreso than the size of their stick!

Q: My Friends Are Able To Orgasm From Masturbation, But I Cannot, What’s Wrong?

A: Relax, and take a deep breath. It’s not a race! First you should focus on understanding your body. Take some time to explore and feel around. While most can orgasm from the same thing, some people are different. This is a good opportunity to learn about your body. Because how can you expect a lover to bring you to orgasm if you don’t know yourself? Looking for tips or techniques to get started? Check out our Masturbation Technique Page.

Q: Should I Use Lubricant While Masterbating?

A: This is your call. You should not be rubbing your skin raw. So a little lube can go a long way. There are so many different kinds, and some are multipurpose, like vasoline, and hand lotion.

What is the Death Grip (or Kung Fu Grip), and what can I do about it? Don’t let de-sensitization destroy your sex life!

The death grip is a problem that faces most men. Whether we realize it or not regular use of our hand does cause desensitization. And while having control and being able to last a long time is great, few women want a man pounding away for an hour. What can be done about this? Well other than substituting sex for masturbation, the Fleshlight is your savior.

Many men have admitted to how desensitization has ruined their sex life and many relationships. But by using the Fleshlight they have not only regained sensitivity, but had tremendous fun in the process. The Fleshlight was designed with the concerns men have. Can we last long enough? Can we have better control? Will I enjoy it as much since I’ve been using my hand for so long?

Some of you have heard of this, while others are clueless. What is the death grip?

The death grip is the pressure in the grip men use during masturbation. It isn’t intentional, but nonetheless is a common occurrence. Masturbation is quite a different sensation from oral, vaginal and anal sex (just to name a few). Masturbation gives men a great deal of control. But this is a double-edged sword.

While masturbation is great, masturbation alone as a form of sexual release can cause men to become desensitized to pleasure. The result? Many cannot have an orgasm with a woman. We’re all familiar with the idea that men cum too fast with women. Well this is the other side of that coin. Too much masturbation with a grip that is very tight makes it difficult for you to enjoy the pleasures of a woman.

One suggestion would be to have sex frequently with a partner. But that’s not always as easy as it sounds. So, what is a guy to do? Well, if your problem is desensitization from the death grip or overly sensitive due to little sexual experience your best bet is practice. This is where the Fleshlight comes in. The Fleshlight was designed to simulate oral, anal and vaginal sex, with a few extra models for the adventurous types.

Now, while the flashlight is a great choice for someone getting their first sex toy, or even someone looking to add a new toy to their collection, it’s not the only one out there. There are plenty of penis sleeves, devices, and doll on the market.

However the Fleshlight is a high quality toy that doesn’t require you to break the bank. But if money isn’t an issue and you want the most realistic thing out there, feel free to check out Real Doll. They’re so realistic (and costly) that it’s SCARY. Dim the lights, put on some music, or even grab a porno, and you honestly will be fooled.

Anyway, perhaps you’re wondering how the Fleshlight can help this problem of being overly sensitive or de-sensitized? The Fleshlight has models that many men agree are a very close emulation of anal, oral, and vaginal sex. By varying your masturbation habits and using a Fleshlight you will allow your body to become more familiar with those pleasures. So, if you’re de-sensitized, you will regain your sensitivity, and if you are very sensitive you can build up your stamina.

So, if you’re having these problems, isn’t $50 (and extra for shipping, lube, and any extras you want) worth it to allow yourself to fully enjoy the experience with your partner? Not to mention it’s great fun if you’re single, or if she’s not ready or in the mood. And if you’re really interested and want something that feels like all 3, anal, vaginal, and oral sex… look for their 3-for-2 deal and save yourself a few dollars.

Q: When Is It Ok To Masturbate?

A: It’s ok to masturbate at any time. When you’re single, or in a relationship, when you’re young, or old, when you’re just part of acouple, or are a parent. Masturbation is a healthy part of life.

Q: Will I Become Obsessed With Masturbating?

A: Well, like all things we can become obsessed. All things in moderation! You can masturbate to your heart’s content so long as other aspects of your life don’t suffer because of it.