What is the Death Grip (or Kung Fu Grip), and what can I do about it? Don’t let de-sensitization destroy your sex life!

The death grip is a problem that faces most men. Whether we realize it or not regular use of our hand does cause desensitization. And while having control and being able to last a long time is great, few women want a man pounding away for an hour. What can be done about this? Well other than substituting sex for masturbation, the Fleshlight is your savior.

Many men have admitted to how desensitization has ruined their sex life and many relationships. But by using the Fleshlight they have not only regained sensitivity, but had tremendous fun in the process. The Fleshlight was designed with the concerns men have. Can we last long enough? Can we have better control? Will I enjoy it as much since I’ve been using my hand for so long?

Some of you have heard of this, while others are clueless. What is the death grip?

The death grip is the pressure in the grip men use during masturbation. It isn’t intentional, but nonetheless is a common occurrence. Masturbation is quite a different sensation from oral, vaginal and anal sex (just to name a few). Masturbation gives men a great deal of control. But this is a double-edged sword.

While masturbation is great, masturbation alone as a form of sexual release can cause men to become desensitized to pleasure. The result? Many cannot have an orgasm with a woman. We’re all familiar with the idea that men cum too fast with women. Well this is the other side of that coin. Too much masturbation with a grip that is very tight makes it difficult for you to enjoy the pleasures of a woman.

One suggestion would be to have sex frequently with a partner. But that’s not always as easy as it sounds. So, what is a guy to do? Well, if your problem is desensitization from the death grip or overly sensitive due to little sexual experience your best bet is practice. This is where the Fleshlight comes in. The Fleshlight was designed to simulate oral, anal and vaginal sex, with a few extra models for the adventurous types.

Now, while the flashlight is a great choice for someone getting their first sex toy, or even someone looking to add a new toy to their collection, it’s not the only one out there. There are plenty of penis sleeves, devices, and doll on the market.

However the Fleshlight is a high quality toy that doesn’t require you to break the bank. But if money isn’t an issue and you want the most realistic thing out there, feel free to check out Real Doll. They’re so realistic (and costly) that it’s SCARY. Dim the lights, put on some music, or even grab a porno, and you honestly will be fooled.

Anyway, perhaps you’re wondering how the Fleshlight can help this problem of being overly sensitive or de-sensitized? The Fleshlight has models that many men agree are a very close emulation of anal, oral, and vaginal sex. By varying your masturbation habits and using a Fleshlight you will allow your body to become more familiar with those pleasures. So, if you’re de-sensitized, you will regain your sensitivity, and if you are very sensitive you can build up your stamina.

So, if you’re having these problems, isn’t $50 (and extra for shipping, lube, and any extras you want) worth it to allow yourself to fully enjoy the experience with your partner? Not to mention it’s great fun if you’re single, or if she’s not ready or in the mood. And if you’re really interested and want something that feels like all 3, anal, vaginal, and oral sex… look for their 3-for-2 deal and save yourself a few dollars.

Q: When Is It Ok To Masturbate?

A: It’s ok to masturbate at any time. When you’re single, or in a relationship, when you’re young, or old, when you’re just part of acouple, or are a parent. Masturbation is a healthy part of life.

Q: Will I Become Obsessed With Masturbating?

A: Well, like all things we can become obsessed. All things in moderation! You can masturbate to your heart’s content so long as other aspects of your life don’t suffer because of it.

Q: Can Others Tell If I’ve Been Masturbating?

A: Yes and no. While people can’t tell if you’ve been masturbating directly; if you are sexually satisfied it does project a sort of healthy confidence that many find attractive and respect. Of course this is assuming you don’t have any guilt about masturbation.

So it’s not masturbating itself that people are seeing, it’s the result masturbation is having on you. If it makes you feel good, happy, and gives you a positive outlook, people will notice! They won’t know you’ve been masturbating, but will see how happy you are.

What’s the difference between the two? Also known as delaying ejaculation!

If you’re looking to learn about orgasm and ejaculation control you’ve come to the right place. Typically the best advice is to have sex often and try and learn while you’re in the moment. But sometimes that’s just not possible, and not all partners are as patient as we might need them to be. So you might be thinking, is there anyway to build up some control, so that you are in a better position when you’re having sex? And the answer is YES.

How? Well, the Fleshlight is the answer to that question. Not only is the Fleshlight designed to feel like the touch of a woman’s lips, pussy, or ass, but it was also designed with men’s concerns in mind. Men worry about being lovers and having control over their ejaculation and the Fleshlight does JUST that.

You may be thinking what’s the difference? Well, for many men the 2 are one in the same, due to the fact that they occur at the same time. But this isn’t the case.

Ejaculation is the physical element when you cum. When you shoot your load. Ejaculation is when semen rushes and shoots out of the penis.

Now orgasm? That’s an entirely different beast. Orgasm is that euphoric feeling you get.

OK that’s nice, so what does this do for me?

Understanding the difference is KEY to having a better orgasm as well as controling and delaying ejaculation.

So, have you ever heard about women being able to have multiple orgasms? Well, this is key to understanding how you can have them too.

The idea here is NOT to focus on trying to cum, but instead on enjoying the experience for as long as possible.

This means NOT jumping the gun when you feel yourself getting closer, but instead to relax, and maybe slowdown a little. Try it! You’ll notice wave after wave of pleasure running up your spine. When you ejaculate it works like much of your body in the sense that it has a cut off point. You have to stimulate yourself JUST enough in order to ejaculate. However if you are just short of this what you’ll get instead is an orgasm.

You may likely have experienced these waves before, but were so concerned with ejaculating that you didn’t stop to smell the roses. There’s no trick or magic behind delaying ejaculation. You must simply take control and get to know your body. After so much stimulation, even if it’s not enough to make you ejaculate… it will definately cause an orgasm or two. Delaying your ejaculation goes hand in hand with not over-focusing on it.

This is nice because you don’t have to stop. You can continue right through the orgasm and soon after get another. Understanding this is a great way to last longer with a woman as you will feel immense pleasure and be able to continue pleasing her at the same time.

Not only will you be able to last longer by delaying ejaculation, but you’ll also be able to enjoy the full potential of your penis. With such extended sessions of pleasure, your penis will rise to it’s limit. This is quite different from a normal erection. We call it an erection once a man is hard, but with prolonged stimulation you will become fully engorged. The result? A LONGER, THICKER penis. Doesn’t that sound fabulous?

Oh, and by the way, after so much build up and having those orgasms, you’ll be able to fully appreciate ejaculation, because now you have build up to the point where you are now like a geyser!

When you have an orgasm and ejaculate together your body essentially plateaus and quickly drops. But when you just have an orgasm that energy stays high, and it’s easy to roll into the next orgasm. SO, if you continue and have multiple orgasms and ejaculate for the finale you’ll notice it takes much longer for those great feelings to subside. Much longer than when you simply ejaculate and orgasm together 1 time. Another alternative is to just focus on the orgasm and not ejaculate at all.

You might ask why would I want to do that. Well, think about it this way. Imagine those feelings lingering around for HOURS. Since you didn?t ejaculate (or cum) your body reaches close to that plateau but never goes over. So you remain in this state for a long period of time. Imagine that!!!

This is something many who are involved with tantric sex mention but us normal folks ten to discount them. Sounds like nonsense right? Well trust me it’s not. It’s also well known that women tend to respond favorably to a man who appears sexually satisfied. Ever notice that when you’re single no one will give you the time of day.

But once you’re with a woman, now every other woman can smell it on you and wants a piece. It’s social priming so to speak. If a woman is sleeping with you it means you must be decent since you got her. So other women want to see what all the HUBBUB is about. Now think about pleasuring yourself in a way that literally makes you glow and give off good vibes. Women will immediately smell this on you and be DRAWN to it like flies to shit.

So, simply trying to delay ejaculation is akin to missing the bigger picture. There’s more in it than just lasting longer for your woman. By understanding your body and being able to better control and feel what’s going on you more than get your jollies! So think less about delaying ejaculation, and more about fully appreciating the experience.

Give it a try, relax and just go with it and see what happens. You’ll be pleasantly surprised!

Q: Will I Become Sick If I Ingest My Own Fluids? (Semen/sperm, Vaginal Secretions, Ejaculation)

A: No! While some say it as an acquired taste, some hate it and some simply love how they taste, you will not get sick from your own goodies.

Q: Will I Catch A Disease Or Become Sick From Masturbation?

A: NO! Masturbation is completely safe. If you are stimulating yourself there is nothing to worry about, for the most part. This assumes you are using your hand. Now if you use external objects you have to consider what they might do to you with continued use.

They may not necessarily give you a disease, but can make you sick if you use something which is not intended to be used as a masturbation device. Where can I find these devices? Check out our Sex Toys Section

Masturbation has been a taboo for ages. Only recently it is becoming more acceptable. But even now many aren’t accepting of it. But, why? If sex, especially premarital sex is ok… then why not masturbation?

We’ve all heard the myths and taboo’s. Some of us are still influenced by them. A lot of it comes from religion and society trying to control people’s behavior. But today sex is so wide spread these old taboo’s are fading away.

Many sex therapists and researchers tell us masturbation is healthy, and SHOULD be a part of our lives. Not only is it fun and pleasurable, but it teaches us about our own sexuality and what we desire. How can you be a good lover if you don’t know how to push your own buttons? Not only that but, masturbation is good for the body.

Sexual release is something the body needs. Now it may not be a direct need like food and water, but it’s still a need. Regular masturbation has been seen to reduce and even eliminate headaches, stress, and give people a healthy happy outlook.

Many say, they’d rather just have sex. Sure, that’s the idea. But when you don’t have a partner masturbation is a great way to go. But don’t let it end there. Masturbation is a fun activity even WITH a partner. You can enjoy watching your partner get off, or even jump in and assist them. It’s a great way to further understand your body and the nature of your orgasm.

You can masturbate with your hand, or use a device designed for such a thing. There are plenty of sex aids that are great for masturbation and can give you a little something extra that you can’t get naturally with sex. It’s a nice treat once in a while.

So don’t be afraid of masturbating. You should be afraid NOT to. Have you noticed how relaxed and great you feel after orgasm? I’m not just talking about in the next 5 mins, but the entire day. It’s nice, isn’t it? Well, take advantage of it. Masturbate, and learn more about yourself, or your partner.

It’s nothing to be ashamed of… rather it’s something to be proud of. Masturbate and enjoy yourself! it’s these feeling of shame during masturbation that manifest when people are shy during sex. You should be more open and honest with yourself. You enjoy the pleasure, so admit it, and ENJOY it.

Now remember. Different strokes for different folks. ^_^

But remember. It’s called choke the chicken – not KILL the chicken. All good things in moderation.

And age shouldn’t be much of an issue when it comes to masturbation. From the onset of puberty til you’re nearing death you can enjoy some nice time with YOU and your hand(s). It’s no surprise that this sexual release makes us feel better and shows. Why do you think women are often attracted to a man who is in a relationship?

The aura he’s giving off from being sexually and emotionally satisfied is sending out signals. And women often respond to this. This should be a good clue that masturbation can be a good thing. But it won’t do you much good if you’re ashamed of doing it. You’ll just make yourself feel WORSE due to the guilt. And that’s definitely not good.

So take some time to get better acquainted with your hand. You’ll enjoy yourself, and your body will thank you!

Q: Will My Penis Become Larger/Smaller From Masturbation?

A: An erection is generally dictated by the blood flow into the penis. So generally speaking, no…masturbating will not change your size. If you seek to be at your best, it’s good to take care of your health as this can play a part in the blood flow, hence your size.

The penis naturally is curved. This is common among almost all men. The curvature is typically slight and never too sharp. But there are also some medical procedures to correct it in case there is a problem. To be blunt, unless it has a sharp angle such as 45 of 90 degrees, you’re fine. Masturbation does NOT cause this curve.

The clit and labia are different sized for different women. This is natural. They typically become larger and engorged (with blood) during sexual arousal and then return back to their original shape afterwards. So NO, masturbation does not cause any unusual shapes and sizes.

Color! It’s typically found that those with dark skin have lighter skinned genitals, and vise versa. So nothing to worry about here. Our genitals come in all shapes and sizes. So there is no 1 way or normal looking penis or vagina. Be proud of what you’ve got and enjoy it!