Q: Can Regular Masturbation Affect My Ability To Have Children Later?

No, masturbation does NOT have a direct affect on your ability to have children. However underwear choice is often something to keep in mind such that tighter underwear makes things warmer which isn’t as good for the sperm as say wearing boxers, which allow breathing room.

Q: How Far/Long Does Semen Usually Shoot?

It has been seen in men to range from trickling out, to shooting 1-3 feet. Some studies have shown that semen traveling out of the penis can go up to 27 MPH. Many feel that the force of ejaculation decreases with age, however it can be somewhat affected by his overall health, and the activity during orgasm… such that continued stimulation might yield a better result than stopping.

Q: Do Married Men Normally Masturbate?

Yes, men of all ages, both single and in a relationship masturbate. Some women may be concerned why he may masturbate if he has a partner. Well, sometimes he just wants to scratch that itch. However if you want you could become part of this masturbation by joining him, or give him something to masturbate about, or do it for him.

Q: What Are Blue Balls?

Blue balls is a condition typically found in young adolescent males, but can also be found in adults as well. It is similar to a cramp or ache in the testes (or testicles, balls, etc.). It occurs when there is prolonged stimulation of the penis without orgasm and ejaculation. Men can become aroused at any time without warning, and just the act of walking around or washing yourself is a form of stimulation. The cure? Masturbate! The release will put your body at ease.

Now you may be thinking this can only happen to men. SORRY! Women have something similar called pelvic congestion. They experience a heaviness and aching in the pelvic region. Again, the cure is masturbation.

Women can ejaculate just like men. Learn to let go!

Female Ejaculation can be a very wonderful thing when your ready to enjoy it. We all know how much men enjoy ejaculation, so why can’t women enjoy it as well? One approach would be to watch a man ejaculate and pay attention to everything that stimulates him, as well as discussing it with him. Putting this all together with what stimulates you, and what you like can help give you a little direction. That and as a woman it’s always fun to see your man so excited, isn’t it?

Female Ejaculation, is also called gushing or squirting. You may have some questions about this like:

• Can I learn this or is it something only porn stars do?
• I am afraid I will pee on my partner, what do I do?
• How will my partner react to it?
• How does it taste?
• How come it takes so long?
• What’s the best way for me to achieve FE (Female Ejaculation) ?

For this to work you need to relax and really let your body experience everything that cums. Think about it. When a man cums, don’t you think it feels somewhat similar to peeing since it is released the same way?

Many women are scared to try this, ignorant of the possibility or too nervous about exploring their sexuality. But this is changing. The G spot has been often called the female prostate due to it’s location and being developed from similar material during your time in the womb.

So, you must be asking, ok… how can I ejaculate? The answer is as simple as it is not. Doing kegels is always a good thing as it increases your sexual enjoyment whether you’re a man or woman. But the area you want to focus on is your G-spot. Now you don’t necessarily need for focus on it alone, the more stimulation the better right?

But you must learn to relax and really let your body experience this. When men ejaculate there is a switch that naturally holds back any urine and allows only ejaculate to pass. While research is still being done on female ejaculation, it is possible the same may hold true for women. If you’re alone, a great place to start may be in the tub, in case you’re worried about the mess. If you have a partner? Just be honest. Many men find it very erotic when their female partner ejaculates as they can relate to it and feel proud that they gave you so much pleasure. So relax, you’re likely more nervous than he is!

If you’re alone you want to either find a comfortable position where you can reach your G-spot or invest in a G-spot toy. Don’t worry if it doesn’t work at first, keep at it. If sex was that easy, no one would ever complain about a less than spectacular sex life. If you are trying with a partner than focus on positions that allow him to hit your G-spot.

This is as much mental as it is physical. You must give yourself to the experience. Many women say the act of sex makes them feel like they have to pee. This is natural as you’re stimulating an area that you use to pee. Many men feel the same thing. So it may take some time and practice to completely allow yourself to relax and release and feel everything.

Many women are so worried about how they look in bed, as well as releasing a queef (vaginal fart), or not pleasing their man. So it’s no wonder that it may be difficult.

So remember, get yourself aroused, and excited, and really get into it…. and LET YOURSELF GO!

And in case you’re wondering will men not like the taste and not want to perform oral on you? Relax! Female ejaculate is actually fairly sweet tasting as it contains 2 types of sugars found in the body.

Julie

I can not believe that people think women can’t ejaculate, or that the subject was so controversial. About 4 years ago I started reading up on it with my ex, and now I can’t not do it. Since he was so supportive and happy about it I never had any problems. I get mixed reactions from men now. Some think it’s just urine, but it’s not. I can gush so much that is soaks the mattress. I only stop when I’m exhausted. I felt like I could really let go if my partner would pull out and continue stimulating the outside of my vagina and my clit. It feels like a huge build up, and it’s great to finally release.

Debbie

The first time this happened to me was when I was 22. I was just soo embarrassed because I thought I peed on the guy. But oddly enough it didn’t feel like pee. It didn’t happen until 3 years later with my current husband. When it happened he was just overjoyed. He explained what had just happened and we were both ecstatic. I had no idea women could ejaculate. What works for me is the fact that he’s hitting my G-spot, but also hitting me deep in my vagina. Luckily for me, my husband is well endowed. It’s just an incredible rush, so much so that it excites him to orgasm as well!

Jake

I was with a woman once who soaked the bed when she came. I thought, wow, look at her pee. When it happened again with another girl I thought, is it really a bladder problem? She explained to me that she frequently squirted, and that females can ejaculate just like men. Wow. I had no idea. I really am changing my understanding of this now, and feel very lucky.

Danny

Having been with my girlfriend for over a year now I noticed she always tensed up when she had an orgasm. I told her she was essentially taking all the fun out of it. If you want to really enjoy it, you have to let go, and enjoy the ride. After a few weeks of discussing it and finally getting her to relax more, and to her surprise she ejaculated. And not a little, a LOT. She’s never enjoyed sex as much as she does now… and she thinks I am just amazing!

Q: Is My Penis Too Small/Big? What Is The Average Size?

Relax! Most adult males fall into the average group which is believed to be between 4 and 6 inches erect. But have you really looked at your penis? Did you know it gains that extra size at the moment you orgasm? So, sure some women may focus on the size of a man’s penis the same way men may focus on the size of a woman’s breasts. But many mature adults realize that so long as their partner is about average (more or less), it’s the person they’re interested in, moreso than the size of their stick!

Q: My Friends Are Able To Orgasm From Masturbation, But I Cannot, What’s Wrong?

A: Relax, and take a deep breath. It’s not a race! First you should focus on understanding your body. Take some time to explore and feel around. While most can orgasm from the same thing, some people are different. This is a good opportunity to learn about your body. Because how can you expect a lover to bring you to orgasm if you don’t know yourself? Looking for tips or techniques to get started? Check out our Masturbation Technique Page.

Q: Should I Use Lubricant While Masterbating?

A: This is your call. You should not be rubbing your skin raw. So a little lube can go a long way. There are so many different kinds, and some are multipurpose, like vasoline, and hand lotion.